At this point, it must be assumed that you have been able to choose a wedding day that is convenient for the church/synagogue of your choice and for the reception facilities that you prefer.
Check on the following:
- Does the church/synagogue have any special rules or traditions that you should know about? Can you write your vows, personalize your ceremony? What are the parameters?
- What will be the time limitations on your wedding day? Is there a ceremony preceding or following yours? This should be checked again, two weeks prior to your wedding date.
- Is there a lounge or other setting suitable for photographs? Is there a rest area where other members of your party can relax, should there be some unforeseen delay?
- Who will be your musician? Are you allowed to provide your own musician? Soloist? Music selections?
- What kind of monetary obligations are there? Are you expected to pay for wedding ceremony services, or is a donation more traditional?
- If your ceremony is to be held somewhere other than a church/synagogue (a hotel for instance), what are your obligations to the officiant?
- Is it acceptable to tape record, video or to take flash pictures of the ceremony? Are there facilities for this?
- Aisle runners and length of aisle what is available and do you wish to use them?
- Where are the flowers to be positioned? What is the best time for them to be delivered? Are there candelabras, candles, unity stand available?
- Are there to be any special seating arrangements for close family members and friends? How is this to be handled?
Once you have the answers to these questions, make a note of them. WRITE THEM DOWN. They will be used and discussed later with your ceremony co-ordinator.